"In some families, you grow up with the expectation that it's OK to ask for anything at all, but you gotta realize you might get no for an answer. This is Ask Culture.

In Guess Culture, you avoid putting a request into words unless you're pretty sure the answer will be yes. Guess Culture depends on a tight net of shared expectations. A key skill is putting out delicate feelers. If you do this with enough subtlety, you won't even have to make the request directly; you'll get an offer.

Even then, the offer may be genuine or pro forma; it takes yet more skill and delicacy to discern whether you should accept.All kinds of problems spring up around the edges. If you're a Guess Culture person... then unwelcome requests from Ask Culture people seem presumptuous and out of line, and you're likely to feel angry, uncomfortable, and manipulated.

If you're an Ask Culture person, Guess Culture behavior can seem incomprehensible, inconsistent, and rife with passive aggression."

-The Guardian

I think I have outgrown guessing. Guessers spend so much time being subtle, indirect and then complain about it later (and I speak for my former self, when I write this). Being subtle doesn't get you what you want! Some people just don't get the hints through their thick skulls.

I've conclude that I'm an asker. It never hurts to ask!
Are you an asker or guesser?